Identity & Attachment Therapy
You earned your place..
but lost yourself
Being a deep-feeling woman is exhausting when you’ve built your identity around being the one who copes, understands and gives more than she asks for.
The very qualities you’ve been praised for can become the patterns that keep you stuck in the cycles that hurt you.
Know yourself so deeply that whatever life throws at you,
you don’t lose yourself in it.
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Does this sound familiar?
You gave Everything..
You’ve spent so long being there for everyone and everything else.
Holding things together. Adapting. Anticipating what’s needed. Proving you can cope.
Making your own needs smaller. To keep going. To become the version of you that could handle whatever was asked of her.
So instead of asking for what you needed, you gave it first, hoping someone would recognise what you were asking for without words.
And while you were busy keeping everything moving, you started disappearing from your own life.
You don’t laugh the way you used to.
You barely know what you enjoy anymore.
You recognise the face in the mirror, but not always the woman behind it.
You know something has to change. You just don’t know how to find your way back to yourself yet.
three core areas
Where the Work Begins
Identity
Who are you when nobody needs anything from you?
You’ve spent so long being the reliable one, the strong one or the easy one that those roles started to feel like who you are. When what you want doesn’t match the version of you everyone expects, you assume you must be getting it wrong.
Attachment
Why can someone else’s reaction make you question everything?
You can know exactly how you feel, then one change in tone has you doubting the lot. You read the room, replay the conversation and look for reassurance because their response feels more reliable than your own judgement.
Self Abandonment
How often do you leave yourself to keep everyone else comfortable?
You say yes when you mean no. You swallow what bothered you. You override what you already know. Then you wonder why trusting yourself feels so difficult. Every time you do it, you teach yourself that your feelings, needs and boundaries come last.
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Hello & Welcome
I'm vicci O'reilly
I didn't just study this work.. I lived it
This work became personal long before it became professional.
Years of grief, emotional exhaustion, anxiety and abandonment wounds.. searching for home, validation and identity in everyone else..
Until I realised the person I'd been letting down the most was me.
Psychology Degree
Understanding human behaviour, emotion and relational patterns.
Qualified in Hypnotherapy
Working with the subconscious beliefs beneath repeated patterns.
Trauma-Informed
Understanding behaviour through safety, adaptation and lived experience.
Usui Reiki Master
Bringing grounded spirituality into emotional and energetic awareness.
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the differentiator
I won't just help you manage the pattern
You can understand exactly why you do what you do and still find yourself repeating it.
My work isn’t about helping you manage the same pattern more comfortably, or giving you better language for why it keeps happening.
We go deeper into the internal world that keeps recreating it, so you can challenge what’s shaping your choices, stop abandoning parts of yourself to stay who you think you need to be, and actually change the way you live.
With insight alone
Managing the pattern
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Understand where your patterns came from and why they developed in the first place.
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Recognise your triggers, attachment responses and the situations that bring them to the surface.
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Put language around the beliefs and behaviours you’ve been repeating for years
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Become more aware of what you’re doing, without necessarily changing what’s happening underneath it.
Your patterns may have a name, but your internal world has your fingerprints all over it.
my approach
Mapping the internal world
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Understand how your internal world came to shape who you became.
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See the identities you’ve built your life around, and what they ask you to sacrifice.
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Make sense of the beliefs, emotions and parts of you pulling in different directions.
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Bring those parts back together, so you can stop living as a version of yourself and start living as the whole of you.
find your starting point
Wherever you are on your journey
There's a place for you here.
You don’t need to have everything figured out before you begin.
Just choose what you feel you need most right now.
The internal world assessment
What's your internal world profile
Your free profile reveals which of the four Internal World identities are most prominent within you, how strongly each one is showing up and the patterns they may be creating in your life.
You’ll discover:
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Your most active identity
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The identities also present in your internal world
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How each identity thinks, feels and responds
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The patterns they create when they take the wheel
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What each identity may be trying to protect you from
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Where to begin building trust in yourself
You won’t be placed into one box. You’ll receive a personalised picture of the identities that make up your internal world.
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